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2O1O PRIVATE SURVEY :: The credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" is something most BDSMers live and play by. Many non-kinksters, however, don't understand what we mean by it. If sympathetic but perplexed vanilla friends asked you to explain how deliberate injury can be "safe" or slavery "consensual," what would you tell them? How do you define "Safe, Sane and Consensual"?

Everything is relative.

Deliberate injury can be safe.

Cane marks eventually go away.

Bruises eventually fade.

As an owned slave I know that my slavery is consensual because I have already consented to by my Mistress's slave. No one FORCED me to be her slave or Her to be my Mistress.

Slavery is therefore consensual if both parties consent to it.

To me (and only to me) safe, sane, and consensual means that the parties will act in a responsible manner which does not result in permanent debilitating injury (either mentally or physically).

The consensual part of the definition means that neither party is coerced and both parties desire the particular power dynamic of their relationship.

Collared,

Todd

2O1O PRIVATE SURVEY :: The credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" is something most BDSMers live and play by. Many non-kinksters, however, don't understand what we mean by it. If sympathetic but perplexed vanilla friends asked you to explain how deliberate injury can be "safe" or slavery "consensual," what would you tell them? How do you define "Safe, Sane and Consensual"?

I can only speak for what safe, sane and consensual means to me, as it is with all of us who live this lifestyle.

I feel safe with my Master, for while I know some of the things he does may hurt me physically, he would never hurt me in an irreparible way.

I put my trust and love in a man that I know is sane, (all things being relative), and that when I am in subspace and not in control, that he will care for me even as he takes pleasure in what he inflicts upon me.

Consensual speaks for itself I believe.

I would not be here, nor would my Master were it not exactly where we both wished to be.

Respectuflly Submitted,

Celia

2O1O PRIVATE SURVEY :: The credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" is something most BDSMers live and play by. Many non-kinksters, however, don't understand what we mean by it. If sympathetic but perplexed vanilla friends asked you to explain how deliberate injury can be "safe" or slavery "consensual," what would you tell them? How do you define "Safe, Sane and Consensual"?

To me, S/m is the consentual exchange of sexual power for the pleasure and satisfaction of the partners involved.

There is a HUGE difference, emotionally, between being hurt but not injured, with your express consent and desire, in a sexually exciting context, than being hurt, harmed maimed or worse, by say, a n individual with ill-intent.

"Things go wrong" on so many levels ..when SM activity takes place, without consent.

As a "considerate Sadist" I want my lover alive, undammaged and howling with pain and pleasure again and again.

Respectfully Endorsed,

Kayla

2O1O PRIVATE SURVEY :: The credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" is something most BDSMers live and play by. Many non-kinksters, however, don't understand what we mean by it. If sympathetic but perplexed vanilla friends asked you to explain how deliberate injury can be "safe" or slavery "consensual," what would you tell them? How do you define "Safe, Sane and Consensual"?

I have mixed feelings about the credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual."

It is a phrase that has little objective meaning, and is open to wide interpretation by those who live by it.

I fear that many people who practice SM believe that their interpretation must by default apply to everyone else, and thus I can see the potential for a lot of judgment and friction between those who assign different meanings to the words.

In my opinion, there are no rules -- excepting of course activities that involve underage individuals or wholly unwilling subjects -- and each person must decide for him or herself what is safe, what is sane, and what is consensual.

In my own relationship I give little thought to the credo.

I trust my Master to keep me safe and to keep our activiti es sane (whatever that means).

Consent is a non-issue for me. I gave up the right to consent or deny when I entered my relationship, and my Master does not need my agreement or cooperation for whatever he decides to do with me.

Submitted with Master Approval,

Elle

2O1O PRIVATE SURVEY :: The credo of "Safe, Sane, and Consensual" is something most BDSMers live and play by. Many non-kinksters, however, don't understand what we mean by it. If sympathetic but perplexed vanilla friends asked you to explain how deliberate injury can be "safe" or slavery "consensual," what would you tell them? How do you define "Safe, Sane and Consensual"?

This is a difficult topic to tackle.

There are so many levels to BDSM play that it's hard to give a single sweeping statement that reflects the "credo" of the scene.

To me, "Safe, Sane and Consentu al" refers to an ideal that I strive for in play. When I restraign or or inflict pain on my sub, it's for our mutual pleasure. We have sophisticated needs, wants and desires and they become fulfilled through play.

I have found the D&S relationships that I have been in to be be extremely loving and intimate.

The focus of BDSM for me is to share an extraordinary experience with someone I care for deeply.

For me, the key to success in D&S is communication.

I need to have safe words, negotiated "rules" and ab solute reverence for anything that is negotiated outside of play. Then, when in play there is enough trust to allow me to take the scene as far as I want to go.

I will know that my partner clearly understands her responsibility to let me know if something seems out of bounds.

I take my responsibility as a Dominant very seriously.

The "Credo" represents forsight in things like knowing how to safely tie up your sub, how to play without doing permanent damage, knowing where to draw the line (emotionally) bet ween "real life" and "play".

I know that my ideas do not represent all or even most of the scene but this is what it's all about for me.

Yours,

Scott